Gay Matter or Grey Matter
By KlingonChick • January 13th, 2008Watch TV, read a book, go to the movies or go shopping…gay is the IN thing. Gay marriages are the topic of the day; the cool kids on TV are gay… Basically, it’s hip to be gay. Is there anything wrong with that? On a personal level, I don’t really care which way someone’s sexuality turns. Be free, be kind and be happy. But recently I have become aware of a side affect of this gay inundation that has me alarmed. It started about three years ago when my 12 year old daughter came home from school and told me about her friend who was gay. I was surprised, because that’s a mighty big decision for a 12 year old. I mean, it could be, but at that age, I would suspect that it is more of a case of a child not getting enough attention at home and craving it so much, they look anywhere for an answer. But, as time passes, I hear more and more that this kid or that kid is gay or bi. What the hell? Is it in the water? How the hell do they even know if they are gay? To be crude, until you are ready to take or give in the ass or chomp a rug, you don’t even know what it means.
So what is going on? It’s my fear that kids today are so inundated with “gay is cool” in media that they mistake natural affection for friends as something more or worse, they are using it as a crutch. We all know the pain and embarrassment of adolescence where crushing and dating can be so very embarrassing and awkward. I have seen children I know suddenly come “out of the closet” if you can even do that as a child, after being dumped or hurt by someone they had a crush on. “Gay” becomes a shield to hide behind rather than face the difficulties of learning to interact with the opposite sex. And it scares me. Are these young people learning the skills it takes to be in a relationship if they run and hide at the first bit of trouble?
God forbid in this absurd politically correct environment, that you question a claim of gay. You are labeled a gay basher rather than someone trying to point out that gay is not an automatic conclusion if a heterosexual attempt to connect goes awry. As if parenting wasn’t already hard enough, now you may have to try to figure out if your child really is of a homosexual orientation or is just engaging in escapism!
One could say let the kids experiment and figure it out on their own. But I am not so sure this is a good answer. Sometimes people have to go through pain and rejection to be able to survive. The funny thing is homosexual relationship issues are really no different than heterosexual in that two different people with their own identities try to blend to make one unit. There will still be heartbreak and embarrassment. Being gay is not a safety net, sparing you from the agony of growing up. But I think it does add to the confusion of an already troubling age to have to deal with sexual orientation questions in addition to every other thing a teenager deals with and it could lead you to make choices that you will regret later in life.
Maybe its time to put the gay away. I can’t help but feel gay is being shoved down people’s throats much like those horrible neon socks were years back. If you are gay or want to wear neon socks, have a blast. But ease up on the gay media a bit and let people decide for themselves what they want to be or wear.
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Agreed. Certainly TV needed to progress beyond Leave It To Beaver, no pun intended. But the genie that has been let out of the bottle seems to know no end. One would think that some common sense and dignity would prevail. Those are very subjective notions however. I think a good example of dealing with contemporary issues while not condoning them has been accomplished on Showtime’s Weeds. For those not familiar with it, a teenage girl steadfastly proclaims her affection for other girls(a minor sub plot)and her mother is constantly irritated by it. There is never anything salacious regarding the subject and it’s not pushed at the audience in a way that would encourage exploration at that age.
“As if parenting wasn’t already hard enough, now you may have to try to figure out if your child really is of a homosexual orientation or is just engaging in escapism!”
Not if you’ve done your job as a parent. Just as you teach them from the time that they are born not to lie, cheat or steal you correctly teach them that faggots are an abomination that suffers from a mental disorder and you have nothing to fuckin worry about. They are to be pittied just like some fuck with Downs Syndrome. Quite simple actually.
Very well written.