The Harbinger

Once, a woman I spoke to told me that she was left feeling disgusted and dirty after she found out her ex boyfriend had come out of the closet. He was Gay.

She said she was embarrassed to admit it, even to me. I told her to just forget it, it wasn’t a reflection on her. He obviously had these feelings before her and somehow he was confused about them so he tried dating her. I told her at the time that if it had happened to me with an ex I wouldn’t be upset about it.

Recently I looked my first ex boyfriend up on MySpace mostly to see how his life had turned out and to say hi. My husband even joked with me about finding my ex boyfriend just to say hi. So I did the search, and sure enough his profile popped up on MySpace! Cool, he owns a bakery in Portland Maine now. And he has pictures on there. Hey, there’s one of him in what looks like a night club. And there’s one of him licking a guys face.

Cut quickly to sexual orientation…Gay. I laughed like Cartman laughed when he first saw the midget motivational speaker on South Park. I immediately had to run and tell my husband; ‘Mike, you don’t need to worry about me talking to my ex boyfriend, he’s gay’.

So my question to you guys is this: How would you feel if your ex turned out to be gay? Man or woman.

Would you take the route my friend took, which could, for some, be an understandable route because she was the last person to date the guy before he went gay. Or would you just laugh it off as nothing? I was one of only two girls he dated in his previous straight life and the other one was after me. I wonder how she’s feeling. But if it was me I wouldn’t have cared.

I finally did get to talk to him and we had a great talk and he sent me a picture of his partner who is a nice guy and, incidentally, someone we knew in middle school.

I probably should have seen this one coming, he wasn’t into sports, always clothes, shoes, chorus and drama. And he would go through the clothes in my closet and tell me how nice they were. While at the time I saw this as a just a guy liking his girl’s outfits, I now wonder. I’m just glad he found his real feelings in life.

At least my husband doesn’t have to wonder when I talk to my ex online now.

Lisa Risa is I live in quiet, and at times boring, Deltona, FL. I am married to Mike and we have both been on the many incarnations of the board since 1999. I love writing, photography and collecting antiques.
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